Comments for Single Men Don't Grocery Shop http://forthinc.net Just another guy with yet another opinion Wed, 04 May 2011 20:16:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on What’s worse by Jim M http://forthinc.net/2009/11/11/whats-worse/comment-page-1/#comment-1914 Jim M Wed, 04 May 2011 20:16:53 +0000 http://forthinc.net/2009/11/11/whats-worse/#comment-1914 It's both the silent treatment and the rejection...they go hand in hand. When I met my wife online (hold on, she was not my wife when we met but you get my meaning), she rejected our first date...never gave a reason and as far as what I felt at the time, she made me sweat for a couple of days. I sat around thinking perhaps I moved to quick, yada, yada. In the end it was my persistence (not to mention my honesty) the prevailed in successfully securing the first date (which lasted almost 12 hours I might add). I should also mention that in the grand scheme of things, AGE has a LOT to do with who you pursue and we are NOT talk'n numbers here, it's all about age and it's relationship with maturity. ;) If you don't get responses, it COULD be that the person may be away, the dating thing may be taking a back seat, no access to email, perhaps they were kidnapped.... I always looked at it as, if they are going to let you down, just drop the bomb instead of the "you know, gee, you are a really nice guy and all but..." BUTS are killers...enough said. It’s both the silent treatment and the rejection…they go hand in hand. When I met my wife online (hold on, she was not my wife when we met but you get my meaning), she rejected our first date…never gave a reason and as far as what I felt at the time, she made me sweat for a couple of days. I sat around thinking perhaps I moved to quick, yada, yada. In the end it was my persistence (not to mention my honesty) the prevailed in successfully securing the first date (which lasted almost 12 hours I might add). I should also mention that in the grand scheme of things, AGE has a LOT to do with who you pursue and we are NOT talk’n numbers here, it’s all about age and it’s relationship with maturity. ;)

If you don’t get responses, it COULD be that the person may be away, the dating thing may be taking a back seat, no access to email, perhaps they were kidnapped….

I always looked at it as, if they are going to let you down, just drop the bomb instead of the “you know, gee, you are a really nice guy and all but…”

BUTS are killers…enough said.

]]> Comment on Online dating the joke is on you by Jim M http://forthinc.net/2011/02/27/online-dating-the-joke-is-on-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1913 Jim M Wed, 04 May 2011 20:10:58 +0000 http://forthinc.net/?p=269#comment-1913 I read everything you wrote and I have to admit you hit the nail on the head with this one. The way I see it (or saw it as I am 5 years happily married to a woman I met online, go figure) is that if you take the time to post for an online dating site or anythign social, you first have to accept rejection before anything happens. Second, you have to be honest with yourself first, meaning that whatever you post about yourself must be the truth and if you get no responses from the women you write to, see the first statement I wrote on rejection. :) You are who you are no matter what and to try and hide behind a veil of lies will eventually catch up with you. If you really want to meet someone, then yes, some sort of capatibility has to exist first then you just build off of that, while maintaining complete honesty. Just remember what Vonnegut said "be careful what you pretend to be because in the end, you are what you pretend to be". Oh yeah, and there is NO such thing as luck when it comes to hitting it off with a woman. Being successful in that regard should not be equated in any way to a game...conquests went out in the middle ages my friend. :) I read everything you wrote and I have to admit you hit the nail on the head with this one. The way I see it (or saw it as I am 5 years happily married to a woman I met online, go figure) is that if you take the time to post for an online dating site or anythign social, you first have to accept rejection before anything happens. Second, you have to be honest with yourself first, meaning that whatever you post about yourself must be the truth and if you get no responses from the women you write to, see the first statement I wrote on rejection. :)

You are who you are no matter what and to try and hide behind a veil of lies will eventually catch up with you. If you really want to meet someone, then yes, some sort of capatibility has to exist first then you just build off of that, while maintaining complete honesty.

Just remember what Vonnegut said “be careful what you pretend to be because in the end, you are what you pretend to be”. Oh yeah, and there is NO such thing as luck when it comes to hitting it off with a woman. Being successful in that regard should not be equated in any way to a game…conquests went out in the middle ages my friend. :)

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